Self and Pattern
Who you are is distinct from the patterns you practiced until they felt like you.
The doorway is recognizing a familiar response without treating it as the whole of who you are. A way of reacting, protecting yourself, speaking, or holding your body may have become so well practiced that it feels inevitable. Recognizing the pattern creates room to meet the present situation differently.
In practiceNotice the difference between “that’s just who I am” and “that’s how I learned to be.”
Once identity and habit come apart, there’s room to find what was there before the habits.